Equal Partnership: Conscious Relationship Part 2 (March 17, 2008)
Earlier I have written about how to establish a conscious relationship (“Conscious Relationship” (October 8, 2007)), in which developing an “equal partnership” is one of the criteria. This article will clarify as to how the equal partnership is defined.
1. Readiness
If you would like to have a committed relationship, YOU have to be ready for it before you ask. After you speak to the Universe that YOU ARE READY, you are ready to invite SOMEONE also READY into your life.
2. The Heart is open
Your heart as well as your potential partner’s should be widely open. If the heart is closed or filled with negative energy from the past (anger, sadness, worry, trauma, etc.), you will not be able to fully express and enjoy love with your partner. By the time you search an equal partner, you should heal any emotional wounds from the past relationships including that with parents.)
3. Receiving & Giving
You and your potential partner are equally capable of receiving and giving love to each other. If either of you tend to receive or give more to the other, you may experience difficulty energetically between the two. The giver will be energetically and emotionally exhausted and depleted. The receiver will often feel overwhelmed and pushed away.
4. Connection is not necessarily important
People talk so much about chemistry and connection. Why do you feel connected to certain people? The answer is very simple. It is the Karma. You feel connected to certain people and feel comfortable because you know them very well since previous lifetimes. They are a group of people that you have spent lifetimes over and over again so as to learn unfinished lessons. Some of them are good Karma, while others are bad Karma that you have to learn how to let go. The point is that there are over 20 – 30 people or more to connect with: so-called “soul mates”. In order to establish a conscious relationship, connection may not be necessary a crucial factor.
5. Consciousness level
More importantly, your conscious level should be close to that of your potential partner. If there is any disparity between the two, the relationship will be very difficult to maintain. The conscious level does not mean the “spiritual path.” Your partner does not necessary have to have a spiritual path like yours. Consciousness means that one has the open heart to care about the humanity, environment and social matters; being capable of sharing, expressing and exchanging joy, love and compassion; being positive, not absorbed with negative energy; not harming others, cheating or lying; and so on. If your conscious level is too higher or lower than the potential partner, you would experience great difficulty in communication. This gap is very critical and the consequence will be more than you would expect.
6. Energetic compatibility
Energetic compatibility is also a very tough reality. This is the level of your energy in quality and quantity. If you have far more light and it is stronger than your potential partner’s, you will blow off the person’s energy and s/he will go into turmoil emotionally, mentally or sometimes physically. The person will feel that your impact is too much and cannot handle. Sooner or later, s/he would go back off or leave you. For each person, there is a comfortable energetic zone based on the spiritual level/standing. If you face someone’s energy which goes beyond or below the comfortable zone, you would not be able to tolerate. Therefore, it is very crucial that you should find a potential partner whose energetic pattern in quality and quantity is similar or within the comfortable zone for each other.
