Human Attachment (February 25, 2008)
Buddhism teaches that attachment is the cause of suffering. Attachment can be developed toward materials, wealth, power, ranking, specific individuals or anything else. Yes, attachment is harmful and causes all sort of suffering.
Buddhism’s Four Noble Truths describe Buddhist’s way of liberating oneself from attachment.
First Noble Truth: Life is suffering.
Second Noble Truth: The origin of sufferings is attachment to desire/craving.
Third Noble Truth: The cessation of suffering is attainable.
Fourth Noble Truth: The path to the cessation of suffering is Noble Eightfold Path (Right View, Right Intention, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness and Right Concentration).
Further from the Buddhist teaching, the Universe told me that attachment not only causes sufferings, but also prevents us from enjoying Universal abundance. Attachment to something limits our vision and opportunities to the access to abundance. Energetically speaking, attachment is energetic stagnation and blockage, which prevents us from growing and evolving.
As far as a human relationship is concerned, why do we often feel attached to someone specific and difficult to let go for a long time?
The Truth is that there are a handful or more soul mates with whom that you could develop relationships. We think that there is only one soul mate, but it is not true. It is not just one… In order to have a beautiful committed relationship, it is necessary to make a closure with the previous partner(s), if any. I have witnessed that so many people are unable to make closures with the past partners and this causes lack of clarity in relationship for them. The best healing is to release the attachment. By doing so, the new door will be open.
How can we enjoy a beautiful committed relationship without attachment? There are two things that you should be in mind.
First, give due respect for each other’s spiritual path. The couple may have similar paths each other or separate ones. One may have a path and the other may not. The importance is mutual respect for each other’s process of learning. Learning together is ideal, but often it may not be the case. In fact, two people’s paths will not be identical due to their karma respectively. A couple should acknowledge that the spiritual path is an individual pursuit without jeopardizing or harming the relationship.
Second, try to find and enjoy a moment to reflect and free your Self. It can take only 5 minutes a day to sit quietly and communicate within. This is the path of non-attachment. Whether you have a partner and/or family to take care of, you are the only one who can get in touch with your Self. In the moment you enter into deep communication within, you will be able to liberate your Self and confirm that you are on your own journey.
